I agree with you one this - I think any more rigid form risks alienating our potential audience. I know I would probably be wary of reccing to it if any kind of login was required - honestly, for the first four years of my fannish existence I would never have even looked past the first page of a 'members only' site; it sends a very cliquish message (although that is most likely not the intent).

Also, I think it is important to keep in mind that the age of consent/majority varies all over the world, and to word any material concerning this accordingly (although if it is hosted on us servers, does that mean that all incoming traffic falls under us laws? That doesn't seem right, but internet laws are weird...)